My darling child,

I know you are feeling lonely and invisible in there, in that quiet, little cocoon. Your siblings are so visible, their talents so evident, their accolades ringing in your ears. I know it feels sad, and you feel like no one can see you, and you feel left out. I know you wonder whether anyone will ever notice you. And it even feels like God might have forgotten where you are. It makes you wonder whether He even cares about these incredible yearnings in your heart. You know you are beautiful, He tells you so, but you wonder what is the point of any beauty if no one’s allowed to see it?

But I want to tell you a secret.

A caterpillar, if you look very closely, actually already has the identity of a butterfly. But it needs a little time in a cocoon to mature into what it really already is. You see, if it tried to fly before its wings had developed, it would fall. In fact, it might even hurt itself so much that it would never be able to fly when it really mattered. So God, in His wisdom, wraps it up safely where the magic can take place: where it can learn the secret lesson.

The lesson of glory.

It must learn to be in the place of being unseen, so that it can learn to look at its invisible Maker instead of at all the eyes that will soon be looking at it.

Because it will be called to shine:

“Let your light shine before men, so that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father who is in heaven.” (Matthew 5:16)

Sweet child, you have to be hidden for a little while so that you can learn to be trusted with glory.

Glory is a thing too heavy for a creature to bear. There is only One strong enough to carry it. And when you are released from that cocoon, your beauty will be evident to all; but you will be light as a feather, so you will be able to fly.

Darling one, most of us wait decades for the gift of this learning. You are being allowed the very deep privilege of learning it so young. I believe that is because your Father in heaven, your Maker, is getting you ready for a very special task. He is preparing you to fly like a butterfly, precious child.

You keep your eyes on Him.

Soon it will be time to shine.


Dear D.O.C.S., Board of Studies, Grandparents and Telephoning Friends,

What is a homeschooling mother to do…when someone calls your home and one of your children answers the phone, and you hear them say, “Um, not much, we haven’t really been doing school lately.”

You and your husband look at each other with horror, jointly imagining raised eyebrows and plans to notify the Department of Community Services on the other end of the line.

“Did you remember that I read you a chapter of a classic children’s novel this morning?” you immediately ask – with what you hope is not even a hint of condemnation or defensiveness – when they have handed on the phone. “And a poem by an Oxford don? Did we not listen together to a movement of Gustav Holst’s “The Planets” Suite? You read aloud to me from a Scholastic textbook on Saturn. And did we discuss a picture of a bronze statue of Saturn as Father Time? What about our little session on the DNA of caterpillars and butterflies? And the lesson on pruning the grapevine, right before lunch? Do you remember the documentary we watched about Scotland, and the radio programme from which you took two pages of notes on astronomy at breakfast time? What about watching your brother install the wiring for an air compressor on a vehicle this afternoon? Have you not also both begun and completed a craft project today? Not to mention the hour you spent picnicking on the roof (yes! A lesson on risk management!) while you and your sister each read your own historical novels, with a view! Have you also fed the ducks and collected the hens’ eggs and ridden the pony and baked two recipes from scratch? And did you not then follow the echidna on his twilight waddle through the paddock just now? Did we discuss current affairs from the newspaper at the dinner table as a family, followed by a time of Bible reading and prayer? And has this litany of educational opportunities not been procured solely from the past 24 hours?”

You pause breathlessly and notice your hands are on your hips.

“Oh. Sorry,” said child apologises. “I forgot about that. But I did tell them I did some vacuuming!”

“…and underneath are the everlasting arms.”

We are somewhere in the Pilliga – that million acres wild – when it appears:

Alice, Please call Search & Rescue

A silent automated message on the screen of my mobile phone.

(We’ve been loading firewood, the children and I, all gloved and farm-clothed and John-Deere-capped. A cold front is coming in over the weekend and their daddy’s a thousand miles from home. He’s a thousand miles from anywhere, almost: he and his brother in the red outback.)

But I can’t call anyone from here. There’s signal enough for my phone to receive text, but it’s still half an hour’s drive through this uncooperative country before there’ll be service enough even to make a phonecall.

My tall girl has handed the timber-cutter a parcel of her homemade Anzac biscuits, and I have handed him cash. We’ve climbed into the ute and waved our thanks and goodbyes. As I’m navigating the rutted track back to the old man’s front gate, the children have already forgotten his arthritis and his red-dusted collie and they’re wanting to know who the message is from.

I tell them it’s a secret and thank my boy for getting the gate, and when he questions my speed and reminds me about the trailer I try to conjure clever red herring excuses; and I will my voice to flow quaverless across my parching lips.

I am speeding towards phone service and I know I’ll have it when I get close to town, and somewhere in mental recesses wild like the million acres of scrub in my rearview, the thought appears that it would be safer to drive in the opposite direction; to find a track leading to oblivion – surely there is one? – one that will never lead to a town. In that moment I discover why JFK’s bride tried to climb backwards out of that Dallas motorcade. Because I am heading inexorably towards what can only be bad news and isn’t that the opposite of survival instinct?

It’s a long way to town and neurons fire lightning fast and by the time I reach the 50k zone I’m deciding to be intentional about where I will stop to call.

I want to be on the outskirts and I want to be near the bridge and I cannot think of a single sane reason why.

I cannot find a place worthy of the news I might receive. I cannot find a picture I want engraved on my memory as the altar of my initiation into widowhood. Because I know this man, and I know his strength, and I know this is no accidental signal. I know this is only life and death.

By now there is voicemail and it’s Southern in accent and when I return the call he tells me, between the Yes Ma’ams, that he’s in Texas, that he’s a US Marine. He reads me GPS coordinates and I’m surprised when he pronounces Oodnadatta and he tells me they know nothing more but will let me know when they do.

The next message is from the capital and I hear words like Search and Aviation; the voice is kind and professional until – just for a millisecond – he cannot mask the surprise when I finally explain that I am the wife. (There’s never been a definite article in front of that title before, my subconscious points out to my barely conscious self, so something dreadful must have happened indeed). I have answered questions all calm and cool control and if he can’t hear my teeth or my knees he might indeed be impressed. I remember details like model numbers and helmet colours and birthdates and first aid kit contents, and I list Spot Tracker options and I rattle it all off like I’m reciting a memorised poem.

But my body is shaking uncontrollably and the fear, it must out somehow, even when the heart remains deceitful above all things.

It’s another half hour’s drive home to the farm and my mind has nothing to do now but run.

I think of my grandmother widowed at my age and I know in that moment I will never remarry and I will never remove this wedding band.

I think of my neighbour so recently widowed and as I pass her farm gate I want to ask how she lives it out with such grace.

I think of my friend widowed young and still beautiful and how her own farmer left her four children and a farm.

I think of my bed and the shallow emptiness there has been beside me this whole week long, and I wonder how deep it will grow when it’s forever.

I think of churches and burials (town cemeteries, farm plots).

I think of the bagpipes we didn’t have at our wedding, and I wonder if he would would like those.

I think of Jackie Kennedy and the riderless horse and the poignancy of the honour. I think, how very much I want to honour him.

I think of a prayer recently offered on our behalves, and how that man said, “YOU are the One writing this story.”

(Later when I try to read my hastily scrawled words on a notepad by the phone, I find they are illegible. My shaking has been wild.
But I can feel You, the Author-Narrator, under and over and beneath the whole tale. My lasting impression will be of that impossible peace.)

There is a question ranging uncertainly in the back fields of my mind, and every now and then it catches my eye from a distance. When it does, I’m not sure whether the words are black or white: If death has separated us, wouldn’t I somehow feel it?

But there’s no room in this wilderness for less-than-worst-case scenarios; it’s a drama but the stage is impossibly small. The idea does not suggest itself that anything less than death, and the death of him, has occurred, and I wonder if that is a mechanism designed for our own good?

Because when, five hours later, I sit the children down, and communicate the first of any of it to them, I announce to them that I have just had some very good news.

(I have instructed them to unload the firewood, feed the animals, do the chores – while I make some important phonecalls in Daddy’s farm office. I must not be interrupted, I explain. And after fielding calls from the State Police regarding fixed wing aircraft and missing persons, and from the International Emergency Response Coordination Centre in some distant bunker about satellite beacons and next of kin…I have lived out my whole long future in five short hours. And it is amazing how elastic a lifetime can be.)

With one last phonecall, all that has been borrowed from me is rapidly returned:

‘We have made ground contact. One of them has a severely injured leg.’

I deliver the news to the children with a smile: “Either Daddy or your uncle has broken his leg.”

They look at me like I have lost my mind.

“Mummy,” frowns the youngest, “that is not good news.”

“Yes it is,” I assure her. She has no idea her father has just been resurrected. “Yes it is. It is very good news.”

Four Score Years



These are the feet of a daddy who climbed a ladder to lower himself.

He humbled himself, quietly, in his old workboots and jeans, with a hammer and nails one July afternoon.

To serve his oblivious child.

With his farmer’s hands, Dad repaired what I could not, because he knew the surprise-guests would soon be arriving, and I, in my Sunday-best, would feast shameless in his wake.

As he did it, he spoke silently of the One who descended to earth – to raise us to heaven, all inverted-like.

Of the One who wrapped a towel around His waist, and knelt, to wash my dusty feet.

Of the One who with hammer and nails served me, His oblivious child – before I could perceive my own need.

Of the One who repairs in me what I am powerless to restore, so that I may feast at last all Sunday-clad in the wake of His grace.

These are the feet of the one who introduced me to the Milky Way – and to the One who spilled those stars across the void.

Those stars which speak, all crystalline-tinkling, of the Voice who spoke them into visible diamond-words.

“How beautiful are the feet of those who bring good news of good things!”


“…the word of Christ.” (Romans 10:15, 17 NASB)

“Remember that the LORD your God led you on the entire journey these 40 years…”

(Deuteronomy 8:2a HCSB)Image

I have prayed God’s own words back to Him as my birthday wish: that I might “grasp how wide and long and high and deep is the love of Christ…” (Ephesians 3:18 NIV)

Not for a moment did I suspect that His answer would come in the surprising form of this graceful family tree, weaving and reaching its sap-filled branches all the way down the garden path to my door.

Their love, it is wide enough to envelop these beloved neighbours into the fold and to interlace branches with my own family’s sweet boughs; it’s long enough to reach forward into the shadowed not-yet, for the tendrils of children unfurling over the fields; it is high enough to worship the One for Whom we are made and to laugh like crazy over the stories we tell and retell; deep enough to reach back through the years (we re-enact photos from my father-in-law’s 40th year: I remember the security of my own father’s side and the peanuts in a bowl and the smooth verandah floor…).

This love is surprising.

I should not be surprised.

It comes from the Father Himself, “from whom His whole family in heaven and on earth derives its name.”  (Eph. 3:15):

Ein Feste Burg Ist Unser Gott

A mighty fortress indeed.  I testify:

“He has watched over your journey through this immense wilderness.  The LORD your God has been with you this past 40 years, and you have lacked nothing.” (Deuteronomy 2:7 HCSB).

Thank You Jesus.  You are my Promised Land.


“I’ve been with you these twenty years.”

(Genesis 31:38)

This Man, Man of the Soil

This man, he is farmer, not writer
– but when he does this I am slain:


He is more than farmer, more than writer.  He is like the poet-warriors of old.

“The man is a fighter, but when he is not fighting he is a farmer…” (David Malouf, Ransom p4).

Happy twenty years, Man of the Soil:  “You are the most excellent of men.” Psalm 45:2 (NIV)

Thank you for fighting the good fight for us, for keeping the faith through every seedtime and harvest.

Happy twenty years, Author of that faith:

“I am the God of Bethel, where you… made a solemn vow to me.” Genesis 31:13 (HCSB)

Thank you both for your “name-changing, story-changing love” (Tullian Tchividjian, Unfashionable p153); for making my heart your home.

You are my home also.

You are my Abode.